5 Reasons You May Not Be Seeing Spiritual Growth…

May 3, 2010 at 7:39 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling, Faith, Practical Theology, Sanctification, church | Leave a Comment

This is a great post by The Resurgence

1. Feelings can be misleading.

Just because we don’t feel holy doesn’t mean the Spirit isn’t making us holy. Feelings aren’t an adequate barometer of spiritual growth, but the gospel always leads us into growth. Bank your growth on faith in gospel truth, not in subjective feelings.

2. We have trouble seeing incremental growth.

If you checked the growth of an orange on a tree each day until it was ripe, you would not perceive its change; however, if you checked it only at its inception and conclusion, the growth would be obvious. You can grow without seeing it. More often than not, the Spirit grows us in increments, not leaps and bounds.

3. Spiritual growth is relative but real.

Depending on the person and season, spiritual growth may be fast or slow. Some of us have sinned so much that we have deeply ingrained patterns of believing lies instead of the truth, and so it takes longer to make progress in the faith. On top of this, we may have emotional, physical, or psychological conditions that make it more difficult to grow. However, these conditions are appointed for our growth. Many Christians have shown us how to grow in the midst of these difficulties (Joni Eareckson TadaWilliam Cowper). Spiritual growth is relative but real. True faith brings about true change. For some people, running a 5-minute mile is growth; for others, facing the finish line is progress. Remember that it is not growth overnight but gradations over a lifetime.

4. Our church family doesn’t encourage one another enough.

As the church, it is important that we point out and celebrate growth in one another’s lives. We are so individualistic, proud, and insecure that we rarely celebrate growth in another person’s life. Make a habit of pointing out growth you see in others, and celebrate God’s grace. Be a good church family.

5. God is using trial and temptation to grow us.

Just because growth is hard doesn’t mean that it isn’t happening. Trial and temptation is often a sign of God’s work in our circumstances to draw us away from the fleeting promises of sin into the sweeter promises of grace. Allow trial and temptation to push you closer to God, not away from him. Difficult things often indicate God’s presence, not his absence. He disciplines those whom he loves.

R.C. Sproul on Christian Depression.

October 7, 2009 at 4:52 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling | Leave a Comment
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Since this is an area I often struggle with I found his analysis comforting. It is easy for Christians struggling with depression to feel like they are on an island by themselves, but if we take a systematic look at scripture we see a vast array of believers fighting this uphill battle. Let us not quickly forget the Psalmist who cried aloud “I am weary with my crying out; my throat is parched. My eyes grow dim with waiting for my God” in Psalm 69:3. If you are battling depression I challenge you to look for joy in God’s word, get counseling, and see a doctor if need be.

Depression

RC says:

The dark night of the soul. This phenomenon describes a malady that the greatest of Christians have suffered from time to time. It was the malady that provoked David to soak his pillow with tears. It was the malady that earned for Jeremiah the sobriquet, “The Weeping Prophet.” It was the malady that so afflicted Martin Luther that his melancholy threatened to destroy him. This is no ordinary fit of depression, but it is a depression that is linked to a crisis of faith, a crisis that comes when one senses the absence of God or gives rise to a feeling of abandonment by Him.

Spiritual depression is real and can be acute. We ask how a person of faith could experience such spiritual lows, but whatever provokes it does not take away from its reality. Our faith is not a constant action. It is mobile. It vacillates. We move from faith to faith, and in between we may have periods of doubt when we cry, “Lord, I believe, help Thou my unbelief.”

We may also think that the dark night of the soul is something completely incompatible with the fruit of the Spirit, not only that of faith but also that of joy. Once the Holy Spirit has flooded our hearts with a joy unspeakable, how can there be room in that chamber for such darkness? It is important for us to make a distinction between the spiritual fruit of joy and the cultural concept of happiness. A Christian can have joy in his heart while there is still spiritual depression in his head. The joy that we have sustains us through these dark nights and is not quenched by spiritual depression. The joy of the Christian is one that survives all downturns in life.

In writing to the Corinthians in his second letter, Paul commends to his readers the importance of preaching and of communicating the Gospel to people. But in the midst of that, he reminds the church that the treasure we have from God is a treasure that is contained not in vessels of gold and silver but in what the apostle calls “jars of clay.” For this reason he says, “that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.” Immediately after this reminder, the apostle adds, “We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies” (2 Cor. 4:7 -10).

This passage indicates the limits of depression that we experience. The depression may be profound, but it is not permanent, nor is it fatal. Notice that the apostle Paul describes our condition in a variety of ways. He says that we are “afflicted, perplexed, persecuted, and struck down.” These are powerful images that describe the conflict that Christians must endure, but in every place that he describes this phenomenon, he describes at the same time its limits. Afflicted, but not crushed. Perplexed, but not in despair. Persecuted, but not forsaken. Struck down, but not destroyed.

So we have this pressure to bear, but the pressure, though it is severe, does not crush us. We may be confused and perplexed, but that low point to which perplexity brings us does not result in complete and total despair. Even in persecution, as serious as it may be, we are still not forsaken, and we may be overwhelmed and struck down as Jeremiah spoke of, yet we have room for joy. We think of the prophet Habakkuk, who in his misery remained confident that despite the setbacks he endured, God would give him feet like hind’s feet, feet that would enable him to walk in high places.

Elsewhere, the apostle Paul in writing to the Philippians gives them the admonition to be “anxious for nothing,” telling them that the cure for anxiety is found on one’s knees, that it is the peace of God that calms our spirit and dissipates anxiety. Again, we can be anxious and nervous and worried without finally submitting to ultimate despair.

This coexistence of faith and spiritual depression is paralleled in other biblical statements of emotive conditions. We are told that it is perfectly legitimate for believers to suffer grief. Our Lord Himself was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. Though grief may reach to the roots of our souls, it must not result in bitterness. Grief is a legitimate emotion, at times even a virtue, but there must be no place in the soul for bitterness. In like manner, we see that it is a good thing to go to the house of mourning, but even in mourning, that low feeling must not give way to hatred. The presence of faith gives no guarantee of the absence of spiritual depression; however, the dark night of the soul always gives way to the brightness of the noonday light of the presence of God.

HT: RC Sproul

Lead Us Not.

April 2, 2009 at 11:20 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling | Leave a Comment
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J. Piper:

Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.” (Matthew 6:13).

James 1:13 says, “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one” (James 1:13).

That’s true. But the Bible also says, “Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil” (Matthew 4:1).

So God does not do the tempting—he does not put evil desires in our hearts (for he can have no evil desires in his heart)—but he does bring us into the presence of many tests and temptations. “A man’s steps are from the Lord” (Proverbs 20:24).

In fact, every step we take is a step into the presence of temptation. There is no moment of your life that is not a moment of temptation—a moment when unbelief and disobedience is not a possibility.

The Lord’s prayer does not teach us to pray against that kind of sovereign guidance.

What it teaches us to pray is that the temptation does not take us in. Don’t lead me into temptation. Deliver me from this evil that is set before me.

Today I will stand before innumerable temptations. That’s what life is: endless choices between belief and unbelief, obedience and disobedience. But, O mighty God, forbid that I would yield. Hold me back from stepping inside the temptation.

Some Counseling Dont’s.

February 11, 2009 at 5:34 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling | 1 Comment

1. Counsel women alone
2. Counsel drunks; wait till they sober up
3. Counsel someone being counseled by another
4. Counsel without access to a phone, desk, writing materials, etc.
5. Counsel people who set down conditions
6. Counsel when a person refuses to do his homework
7. Counsel by telephone
8. Counsel by separating spouses from one another
9. Counsel people so drugged that they can’t reason
10. Counsel young children; counsel their parents
11. Counsel unbelievers; evangelize them
12. Counsel a Christian who will not accept Scripture as a Standard

(HT: Unashamed Workman)

Get UP and Get BACK….

November 13, 2008 at 11:58 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling, Biblical Theology, Practical Theology | Leave a Comment
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Irish Calvinist wrote a great post about the faithfulness of God and the strength he supplies. He writes:

1 Kings 19:9 9 There he came to a cave and lodged in it. And behold, the word of the LORD came to him, and he said to him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”

Elijah had experiences that few of us will ever share. In this very occasion he is coming off of a hundred mile hike through some rough terrain. This of course is due to the fact that the wicked Jezebel has issued a note on his head for his part in first embarrassing and then slaughtering hundreds of her beloved prophets.

He is on the run and seems to be at the end of his rope. He says, “It is enough; now, O LORD, take away my life…” (1 Kings 19.4).

To the answer the question asked by the Lord, Elijah says, “I have been very jealous for the LORD, the God of hosts. For the people of Israel have forsaken your covenant, thrown down your altars, and killed your prophets with the sword, and I, even I only, am left, and they seek my life, to take it away.” (1 Kings 19:10)

He seems to be done. He is frustrated with the idolatry. He even seems a bit defeated and resigned to just mail it in.

God then shows his power in the wind; he tears apart mountains and breaks in pieces the rocks. Then he shows himself powerful through the earthquake and then a fire. And then tenderly and carefully God again speaks to Elijah in the sound of a low whisper (1 Kings 19.12).

The question is again posed as to why he is there. To which Elijah gives the same canned answer. Only now the Lord tells him to get up and get back to work. The pity party is over. God is still all powerful, he is still speaking through his prophet, he is still doing his work, and you need to get up and get to it.

I am certain that many Christians, particularly pastors, can identify with the prophet here. We sometimes feel like the last level of orthodoxy, the last lantern of holy oil, and the only one who has not compromised.

To this God says again, get up and get back to work. For as long as Almighty God is committed to his glory and powerfully sits upon the throne of all the world, there is work to be done and selfish pity parties to be eschewed. God has not waved the white flag therefore his servants should not either.

We would do well to recount the myriad of ways in which God has shown himself faithful in our lives and ministries. The temptation is to sit with your head in between your knees like Elijah and wallow like a whipped dog. But friends, our God is on the throne, there is work to be done. He is the one who has said, “Yet I will leave seven thousand in Israel, all the knees that have not bowed to Baal, and every mouth that has not kissed him” (1 Kings 19.18).

Get up and get to work. Recount the glorious work of God in your midst. Pray with fervency. Stand firm like one who has truly seen the glorious power of God but who has also heard the tender voice of a low whisper. Go and find an Elisha to pour into. Find encouragement in ministry through the immovably powerful Almighty God.

Indeed as long as God is God there is no need for us to bathe in self-pity and hopelessness, for the God who says, “I am who I am” is the one who is eternally committed to the ceaseless promotion of his own glorious agenda of increasing his fame.

Helping the Hurting.

April 28, 2008 at 4:15 am | Posted in Biblical Counseling | Leave a Comment
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Molly Piper writes a great post on Helping a Grieving Friend. It is well worth the read so check it out HERE.

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